In Remembrance
My Grandmother passed away one year ago today, on Sept 11th 2005. I am still coping with that and found this month to be particularly hard, following a year sprinkled with memories and sadness as each of the months came and went. Holidays, birthdays, seasons changing, dogwoods blooming. I love her very much, and I still miss her every single day.
So many of you have known me for years now, and were very kind and supportive when she passed and when I took some time off from my work online. I appreciated that very much – especially the kind words and friendship that so many of you offered.
I had a friend tell me recently not to worry about her at all, or be sad over her death, as she was not concerned with this world anymore. I admitted to them that I wasnt worried about her at all… that I was sad over my own loss. I just miss her.
Towards the end Grandmother and I didnt say much to each other. I would sit by her bed and she would reach for my hand, and we would smile at each other. I would just stay there for awhile, my daughter too, usually until she fell asleep again.
When I visit the cemetary where my grandmother is buried, that’s why I go. I sit there beside her in silence, and its much like those last few months. It’s not necessarily a way to be close to her, because more than anything she is in my heart and in my memories. It’s just a way for me to find that silent strength we would draw from each other.
I’m glad I got to know her as an adult, and grateful for all of the mornings that we shared coffee and conversation together.
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Hey Lynn,
I didn’t realize it was on 9/11 that she passed. It’s hard to believe it’s been a year already.
I lost my last living grandmother two weeks ago…the one whose house I purchased two years ago. Although I thought I had made peace with losing her years ago due to her mental state, it hit me rather hard after all the ceremonies were over. We are very fortunate to have had relationships with a grandparent.
I have a great deal of respect for you for the care you gave her. My sister cared for our grandmother for six years while married with two small children of her own…and quite honestly I don’t know how she did it.
You are in my thoughts and prayers this evening. I remember the touching story you wrote in your blog about her shortly after her passing. Thank you for sharing it. You were blessed to have her in your life…and she to have you.
Thank you, Carrie. I’m sorry to hear that you just recently lost your grandmother as well. I can relate to feeling as if you are ready, but realizing you werent. Take care *hugs*
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Lynn,
My thoughts are with you.
As I also have a very close relationship with my only remaining nan I can understnd why you looked after her so well.. I would too if my nan needed the help, after all the relationship between granparents and granchildren is very special, a unique relationship.
Blessings to you and your family.
Take care,
Rob
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It was truly a rare and wonderful experience to have had that time with your grandmother, who is so much a part of you.
My paternal grandmother died when I was very young and my maternal grandmother who I did come to know and love passed while I was out of state.
Grieving doesn’t happen overnight.
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I agree. I am so grateful to have been in the position and to have had the opportunity. Working from home has a lot of perks.
My grandmother worked from home also, so that she could take care of her elderly mother and her son at the same time. She was a business woman, but opened a second shop out of her home so that she could manage it all under one roof.
I’m especially glad my children got the chance to know her.
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I’m especially glad my children got the chance to know her.
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Thats is great Lynn…. thats the best thing for me too.. my sons have had the opportunity.. nan is now 75 and really has a full life, going on trips with church friends etc.
Its great.
Thank you for sharing.
Take care.
Rob
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