Comments on: How to Deal With Rejection in Networking http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/ Internet Marketing blog by Lynn Terry with How-to, Tips, Reviews, Case Studies & Ideas to help you succeed online. Known as the Voice of Integrity in IM... Sun, 12 Feb 2012 18:31:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Elin @ Tandblekning http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-2294265 Elin @ Tandblekning Tue, 13 Dec 2011 15:29:15 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-2294265 It's okay to wonder why, but then again~ don't take it personally. Reaching out is a part of work, and as I've read on the other blog 'more action, mere friction' which could equate to resistance. It’s okay to wonder why, but then again~ don’t take it personally. Reaching out is a part of work, and as I’ve read on the other blog ‘more action, mere friction’ which could equate to resistance.

]]> By: Tom @ Casas en Venta en Miami http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-889728 Tom @ Casas en Venta en Miami Fri, 20 May 2011 15:10:37 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-889728 Hi Lynn, Great post. However, sometimes I have trouble not taking it personally since it is an instant reaction. What I have realized is that if i have something to say, I have to say it (to the person) or I will be replaying in my head what I should have said over and over again Hi Lynn,

Great post. However, sometimes I have trouble not taking it personally since it is an instant reaction. What I have realized is that if i have something to say, I have to say it (to the person) or I will be replaying in my head what I should have said over and over again

]]> By: Maertin http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-501278 Maertin Thu, 16 Dec 2010 05:15:30 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-501278 This is crap. When someone on facebook does not respond to a first email, it's a rejection. Period. Why bother to accept someone as a "friend" if they won't even respond to a short email that says, "hi, nice to see you again.... You look great."? If they are trying to spare your feelings by not rejecting your friend request, you'll get the message that they aren't interested in you when they ignore your email. It's just as much as a rejection. This is crap. When someone on facebook does not respond to a first email, it’s a rejection. Period. Why bother to accept someone as a “friend” if they won’t even respond to a short email that says, “hi, nice to see you again…. You look great.”? If they are trying to spare your feelings by not rejecting your friend request, you’ll get the message that they aren’t interested in you when they ignore your email. It’s just as much as a rejection.

]]> By: Jason @ How to make lots of money fast http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-407006 Jason @ How to make lots of money fast Tue, 19 Oct 2010 15:03:09 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-407006 I agree with you there, Adrea. You MUST approach this as a business and should treat it as such. You really can't it personal, otherwise you will blog yourself up. I agree with you there, Adrea. You MUST approach this as a business and should treat it as such. You really can’t it personal, otherwise you will blog yourself up.

]]> By: Sheryl Loch http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-197733 Sheryl Loch Wed, 28 Jan 2009 08:59:03 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-197733 Lynn, If I took every delayed response as a rejection or even a 'No Thank You' as a reason to get my feelings hurt - holy cow - I would be the #1 user of anti depressants. Some people even get upset if they get a response from a person's assistant. Geez - no one can do it all! Lynn,
If I took every delayed response as a rejection or even a ‘No Thank You’ as a reason to get my feelings hurt – holy cow – I would be the #1 user of anti depressants.

Some people even get upset if they get a response from a person’s assistant. Geez – no one can do it all!

]]> By: Mary Gallagher http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-197011 Mary Gallagher Mon, 26 Jan 2009 21:07:40 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-197011 Lynn, want to thank you for using that Aweber blogblast! Personal time, Face time, Online time, Connection time. It's all timing. I'll just say here that I'm learning the ropes with this social networking, barely doing the most important connective tasks. Making mistakes is all par for the course. I'm finding that there is a vibrant community of online people that I can connect with at any time I choose. I drop in and out and want to challenge myself a bit more by engaging in conversations consistently and purposefully. It's good to know that the rules aren't so cut and dried that we all can't be learning the ropes together and helping each other improve! best for now, Mary Lynn, want to thank you for using that Aweber blogblast!

Personal time, Face time, Online time, Connection time. It’s all timing. I’ll just say here that I’m learning the ropes with this social networking, barely doing the most important connective tasks. Making mistakes is all par for the course.

I’m finding that there is a vibrant community of online people that I can connect with at any time I choose. I drop in and out and want to challenge myself a bit more by engaging in conversations consistently and purposefully.

It’s good to know that the rules aren’t so cut and dried that we all can’t be learning the ropes together and helping each other improve!

best for now,
Mary

]]> By: Linda Stacy http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196958 Linda Stacy Mon, 26 Jan 2009 17:53:58 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196958 I think we send a lot of mixed messages. We tell people that it's important to build relationships in order to succeed online, and to use social media marketing, but then we say "it's business, don't take it personally. " We gather friends on sites like Facebook and carry on both business and personal conversations on Twitter, but then we say it's not personal, it's business. The bottom line is that communication has changed and people do expect more immediate responses. Why else are all those people putting everyone in danger by talking on the cell while driving? I wholeheartedly agree that everyone should have reasonable expectations about how long to wait for a reply, but I also think that if you're in business, you have a responsibility to reply in a reasonable amount of time. The timing depends on what the request is. I've always had a rule of thumb to wait 3 days for a reply (whether it's a phone message to a friend or an email to a business). But that's for questions about products, the status of my order, or support for an issue with something I bought. If I email you for free advice on running my business, I don't have any expectations that you'll ever reply, so any response even one months later is appreciated. If you engage me; if you ask me for information or express an interest in a joint project, I do expect the courtesy of a response within a reasonable amount of time (and weeks isn't reasonable to me). Even if that response is a simple, "Sorry. I got swamped. I'll have to back burner this for months." If you don't response at all, then yes, I take it *personally*. I'm a bit put off by the lack of the courtesy of a response. Do I let it bother me any more than that? Absolutely not. I simply note it in my mind and move on. But I am left wondering if my last message actually go through.... To make a long message longer.... One final note.... Lynn, if you have thousands of emails to sort through, isn't it time to hire someone to sort through and prioritize them for you? It will save your sanity if nothing else. I think we send a lot of mixed messages. We tell people that it’s important to build relationships in order to succeed online, and to use social media marketing, but then we say “it’s business, don’t take it personally. ”

We gather friends on sites like Facebook and carry on both business and personal conversations on Twitter, but then we say it’s not personal, it’s business.

The bottom line is that communication has changed and people do expect more immediate responses. Why else are all those people putting everyone in danger by talking on the cell while driving?

I wholeheartedly agree that everyone should have reasonable expectations about how long to wait for a reply, but I also think that if you’re in business, you have a responsibility to reply in a reasonable amount of time. The timing depends on what the request is.

I’ve always had a rule of thumb to wait 3 days for a reply (whether it’s a phone message to a friend or an email to a business). But that’s for questions about products, the status of my order, or support for an issue with something I bought. If I email you for free advice on running my business, I don’t have any expectations that you’ll ever reply, so any response even one months later is appreciated.

If you engage me; if you ask me for information or express an interest in a joint project, I do expect the courtesy of a response within a reasonable amount of time (and weeks isn’t reasonable to me). Even if that response is a simple, “Sorry. I got swamped. I’ll have to back burner this for months.” If you don’t response at all, then yes, I take it *personally*. I’m a bit put off by the lack of the courtesy of a response. Do I let it bother me any more than that? Absolutely not. I simply note it in my mind and move on. But I am left wondering if my last message actually go through….

To make a long message longer…. One final note…. Lynn, if you have thousands of emails to sort through, isn’t it time to hire someone to sort through and prioritize them for you? It will save your sanity if nothing else.

]]> By: chris http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196751 chris Mon, 26 Jan 2009 04:51:07 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196751 if you fear rejection, then social networking is not for you ... if you fear rejection, then social networking is not for you …

]]> By: Lynn Terry http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196659 Lynn Terry Sun, 25 Jan 2009 23:23:15 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196659 Speaking of which, someone made the comment on Twitter this past week that they didnt know how they felt about Barack Obama not writing his own tweets - about having someone designated to "tweet" on his behalf at Twitter.com. Seriously. Do you want the man to focus on running the country - or sitting in a corner replying to tweets & DM's 10 hours a day?? Speaking of which, someone made the comment on Twitter this past week that they didnt know how they felt about Barack Obama not writing his own tweets – about having someone designated to “tweet” on his behalf at Twitter.com.

Seriously. Do you want the man to focus on running the country – or sitting in a corner replying to tweets & DM’s 10 hours a day??

]]> By: Lynn Terry http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196657 Lynn Terry Sun, 25 Jan 2009 23:20:13 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196657 <blockquote>There are many very successful people who never respond at all to any comments...</blockquote> Hi Steve, Not every business model runs on feedback, or requires a response from the merchant. It would be impossible for Brittany Spears to personally respond to all of her fan mail with a hand-written letter for example. Its interesting that with the popularity of social media properties, people have come to expect a personal response in almost real-time, regardless of who it is. From your best friend or your mother, maybe. But not from Pink or Bill Gates for example. For most companies you have to use a ticket system or contact their support team. That free's them up to do what they do best (which is not "respond to emails/comments").

There are many very successful people who never respond at all to any comments…

Hi Steve,

Not every business model runs on feedback, or requires a response from the merchant. It would be impossible for Brittany Spears to personally respond to all of her fan mail with a hand-written letter for example.

Its interesting that with the popularity of social media properties, people have come to expect a personal response in almost real-time, regardless of who it is. From your best friend or your mother, maybe. But not from Pink or Bill Gates for example.

For most companies you have to use a ticket system or contact their support team. That free’s them up to do what they do best (which is not “respond to emails/comments”).

]]> By: Lynn Terry http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196655 Lynn Terry Sun, 25 Jan 2009 23:16:12 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196655 I dont know, Bob - that's taking it a little far in my book. There are a lot of people that I only know online, that I havent had opportunity to meet in person (yet) that I still consider "people I know". It actually helps me a lot to think of the people I'm writing for and to - not just considering them or their response "nothing personal" - but to actually hear what they are going through, as it helps me to write more content with those things in mind. I think without the personal aspect of it, I wouldnt enjoy my work anywhere near as much as I do. It also helps us to realize that we're all merely human. If I dont get an email response from you right away, I shouldnt assume you are blowing me off - but realize that perhaps you're away from the computer, sick, on vacation, busy with other things, etc. We're all real people, with a life outside the computer & internet. I dont know, Bob – that’s taking it a little far in my book. There are a lot of people that I only know online, that I havent had opportunity to meet in person (yet) that I still consider “people I know”.

It actually helps me a lot to think of the people I’m writing for and to – not just considering them or their response “nothing personal” – but to actually hear what they are going through, as it helps me to write more content with those things in mind.

I think without the personal aspect of it, I wouldnt enjoy my work anywhere near as much as I do.

It also helps us to realize that we’re all merely human. If I dont get an email response from you right away, I shouldnt assume you are blowing me off – but realize that perhaps you’re away from the computer, sick, on vacation, busy with other things, etc.

We’re all real people, with a life outside the computer & internet.

]]> By: Bob http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196631 Bob Sun, 25 Jan 2009 22:00:56 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196631 You cannot take anything personally that happens on the internet whether on a blog, Tweet, e-mail, or even facebook, unless you actually know the person you are speaking to and have met them in person they don't really know you nor you them. Not only do people get overwhelmed with information many folks forget that they are dealing with real thinking and feeling people on the other end of those e-mails and blog posts, unlike a phone call or a snail mail letter where you can hear and read emotion and sometimes feel the person on the other end, the internet doesn't convey feeling like that, especially a busy website. You are just another post or e-mail, nothing personal. You cannot take anything personally that happens on the internet whether on a blog, Tweet, e-mail, or even facebook, unless you actually know the person you are speaking to and have met them in person they don’t really know you nor you them. Not only do people get overwhelmed with information many folks forget that they are dealing with real thinking and feeling people on the other end of those e-mails and blog posts, unlike a phone call or a snail mail letter where you can hear and read emotion and sometimes feel the person on the other end, the internet doesn’t convey feeling like that, especially a busy website. You are just another post or e-mail, nothing personal.

]]> By: Steve http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196610 Steve Sun, 25 Jan 2009 20:40:09 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196610 I would agree: don't take it personally. It is helpful to hear your perspective as someone who is very busy and successful. There are many very successful people who never respond at all to any comments, so I consider it great when anyone does respond. Also, comment consistently, add value, and the host blogger will eventually take note. I would agree: don’t take it personally. It is helpful to hear your perspective as someone who is very busy and successful. There are many very successful people who never respond at all to any comments, so I consider it great when anyone does respond. Also, comment consistently, add value, and the host blogger will eventually take note.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196289 Lisa Sat, 24 Jan 2009 21:03:31 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196289 I was just talking with Kelly the other day about cross-blog conversations. How ironic! We can't respond to everything that's thrown at us 100% of the time - it's just not humanly possible. (Maybe I should put that as a disclaimer on my email signature! lol ;) I was just talking with Kelly the other day about cross-blog conversations. How ironic!

We can’t respond to everything that’s thrown at us 100% of the time – it’s just not humanly possible. (Maybe I should put that as a disclaimer on my email signature! lol ;)

]]> By: DeAnna Troupe http://www.clicknewz.com/1840/how-to-deal-with-rejection/comment-page-1/#comment-196272 DeAnna Troupe Sat, 24 Jan 2009 19:38:20 +0000 http://www.clicknewz.com/?p=1840#comment-196272 When I was still single and a guy I liked would turn me down (Yes it did happen from time to time. Imagine that?) my mom taught me this important word: NEXT! That's the attitude that I use with networking. If I feel like I'm being rejected by one person, I just say NEXT! and keep on rolling. Someone always says Yes after someone else says no. You won't get to yes if you stay hung up on the no (as this blog post so clearly shows). When I was still single and a guy I liked would turn me down (Yes it did happen from time to time. Imagine that?) my mom taught me this important word: NEXT! That’s the attitude that I use with networking. If I feel like I’m being rejected by one person, I just say NEXT! and keep on rolling. Someone always says Yes after someone else says no. You won’t get to yes if you stay hung up on the no (as this blog post so clearly shows).

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