If I Had To Start Over. . .

[retta719]

Well, I've always been very supportive of everyone in this forum, Lynn included. This whole thing has left me feeling on the dumped on and I really do have far better things to do with my time. And for the record, I've been working my tail off for 8+ years, there really isn't anything that anyone can say to tell me otherwise.

Well, that's no good. You don't deserve to feel that way at all. You're too kind and supportive to be feeling that way. I think you and I are in the same position in a lot of ways, I've been online since late 2000 early 2001, and we're at that point of wanting to get to that next level of success..... we're finally falling into our "place" on the internet, and I know we'll both get to that next level very soon

I think that it would do everyone well to go back and read the beginning - what would you do differently if you were to start again - and do that.

That sounds like a good plan for everyone! If there is something you would do differently, go do that thing! Don't think about, just go do it

I've been away from the forum quite a bit this past week because I've been working on restructuring my cross stitch site, which was my very first website online ever. I put it up way back in 2001 and I knew nothing about SEO, keywords, or affiliate marketing, writing for an audience, or any of that. I'm revamping it to hopefully make it a million times a better.

I feel the tension in this topic and I'd love to change directions and go down a more positive path here. After all, negativity is going to get us all to nowheresville, right?

Let's take a look at what Jan just said. (write this stuff down)
What would YOU do differently?
Why would you do that differently?
What is your main goal or purpose for making this change?
What steps do you need to take in order to accomplish the goal?
How long reasonably do you think it will take you do accomplish it?
How can we help you do what you need to do?

Let's go get some good stuff done!

[judykelly]

I'm not in total agreement with this turn of the conversation on IT. I'm thinking... it sounds like bull**IT. It sounds like a real nice excuse not to succeed, or a landing pad for those that feel like giving up. "I just don't have IT" - pfft.

Christian or not, I suggest you read The Parable of the Talents. Everyone is given something, not the same thing, and you are obligated to discover it and live up to it's full potential.

Lynn: You're correct. I have a daughter who is inherently very bright and could do anything she put her mind to but has NO faith in herself and chooses to do nothing with herself or her life even though she has 3 children (one of whom lives with his father because she doesn't have the ??? to try to get him back). It DOES take something and what you had was "desire" to have a life for yourself and your children. We can teach people skills but whether they use them or not is up to them. Yes, circumstances can get in the way but often those "circumstances" could be overcome if the person had the desire to overcome them. Many, like my daughter, would rather let others take care of them (even the government althought she does not do that). Most call her lazy and maybe that is true I don't know but it could also be a huge lack of self worth. You can be thankful that you seem to have received lots of that (self worth) from your awesome Grandmother. So, maybe it is belief in ourselves that allows us success. So many theories.....

Lots of thought provoking stuff here.

[David Jackson]

Reading this, it appears this thread has gotten way off track, and upset more than a few people in the process. When that happens, maybe it means this topic has reached a point of diminishing returns and should be closed.

Just a thought.

David Jackson

[jkgourmet]

I second that suggestion. (but would like Steve T's thoughts as he began the thread, albeit with a very different tone.)

[StephenT]

David, I agree with you. this thread has done all the good and bad it needs to do. I would like to see it end!

[Grace]

When I was in College in some remote part of Africa we defined IT as Internet Technology.
Then there is the definition I got today, which I cannot put in words.

Anyone following this thread has IT, both ways.

Oh, how we love to have an excuse.

Never tell your children, grandchildren, friends or yourself in a developed world like this that you have no IT. If that is what you are saying to others, then that is what you are telling yourself, it comes from the abundance of your heart.

There are gurus, how I love to blame them for telling me how I would be rich overnight and there are people who want to make me believe I cannot make it no matter what. AAAH.
And then there are people like Lynn, Scott, Retta, Lyle, Nicole, Bob the teacher, Julie Anna, Sheila, Dan Miller of 48days and Paul Evans, myself and others who believe, we all got IT. Both ways.

I am just gona surround myself with the right crowd.
Grace

[Julie Anna]

Well, I've always been very supportive of everyone in this forum, Lynn included. This whole thing has left me feeling on the dumped on and I really do have far better things to do with my time. And for the record, I've been working my tail off for 8+ years, there really isn't anything that anyone can say to tell me otherwise.

I'm off to do a lot of restructuring myself - some of it thanks to this very thread. I think that it would do everyone well to go back and read the beginning - what would you do differently if you were to start again - and do that.

Jan,
I hope you aren't feeling this way for long - dumped on. I really appreciate your support.

This thread has hit a soft spot for many of us. After all, we're talking about inner stuff here - not systems or projects or any of the like. Fleshing out heart issues many times can get messy. The trick is looking at what we each can learn and come away with.

I felt your contributions were spot on especially in the belief of self but as always in this form of online communication it's hard to get all the voice intonations and communications just right especially with the length of this particular thread.. I had to rethink and solidify some of what I do believe in as a result of your post so it helped me grow and realize for me it is more than just in me. Thank you for extending me and helping me reach in that way. This is why I love transparency in supportive forums and why this community is unlike most others. It's always risky to become vulnerable and talk so openly about our inner "stuff" but needful. I appreciate you for that.

Make you think threads are both hot buttons and disguised blessings!

Anyhow, don't go away. I'd miss you too much.

JA

[Jan Ferrante]

Thanks guys, I jumped into the webinar at the wrong time, that's were that was coming from. Lynn emailed me which I thought was really good of her to do, frankly, I thought I was in the dog house.

I do really appreciate your thoughts and I do think that there was a lot of good in this thread. I know that I got a lot from it.

I just hope that everyone can be successful and happy

[Bridgett Raffenberg]

If you have never heard Nick Vujicic speak, do yourself a favor and watch this YouTube video. Pay special attention at three minutes in. Tell me that it takes a special "it" to make it... I am sure this man never believed that. If he had, he would not be who he is today - a motivational speaker (with no arms or legs).

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u3LFBqvvW-M

I am not good at everything - no one is. But I truly believe there is no obstacle that I can not overcome. And you can be darned sure that I am going to use my talents to make my life better.

[bigrac]

Reading this, it appears this thread has gotten way off track, and upset more than a few people in the process. When that happens, maybe it means this topic has reached a point of diminishing returns and should be closed.

Just a thought.

David Jackson

Hey David,

I see this is by far the most popular thread on the forum, why would you want to close it?

I took another look through and I can't see any evidence of people getting upset either (!)

What's to be upset about, it's just an open discussion, a frank exchange of views. That's what forums are all about isn't it?




Rich